The last few months have been really difficult for me. Deep down in my heart and soul, I know my God is with me and He IS and always will be my God of all comfort. I have learned to stand on His Word and overcome the really tough days but sometimes there are days where you just, I don’t know, want to give up. You just want to throw in the towel. I know you have been there.
I have had my “thorn in the flesh” so to speak. We all have our own. So there are days where I have told God I am angry with Him or I’m frustrated with what He is putting me through. I have cried tears of sorrow, of feeling empty, of feeling despair, and of just not wanting to have expectations anymore. It is just too painful. If we don’t have expectations, we won’t be disappointed. But is this any way to live?
In 2 Cor 4:8 Paul says, in his circumstances, he is perplexed but not despairing. The word used here for despair is exaporeo, which means “no way out” or “utterly at a loss”, “no solution”, “no exit.” See but Paul says we are NOT despairing. God IS with us. We are never alone and we have every reason for hope.
Here are 7 reminders to push past despair :
1.For everything we go through, someone is going through worse. Perspective makes us grateful and thankful regardless of our circumstances.
(1 Thessalonians 5:18)
2.For every instance of pain or trial, God has His purpose for allowing it in our lives and this purpose is far more glorious that we can imagine or understand. He is Sovereign. He also has the purpose of teaching us obedience and utter dependence on Him in trusting Him in every aspect especially our worries and cares.
(Isaiah 46:10) (2 John 1:6) (1 Peter 5:7)
3.God owes us nothing, yet His mercy and grace have allowed us to live and have life abundant due to the sacrifice of Christ. His love for us is unlike any other and we must trust He knows what He is doing even if we don’t like it or don’t understand it all the time. He gives us the necessary faith to believe and trust amidst our trials.
(1 Timothy 1:14)
4.Through this trial, He is perfecting us so that we will be mature and complete, lacking nothing.
5.When we are feeling weak, we must confess our weak faith and ask God to help us while holding on to truth;
truth about His character : He is good (Psalm 145:9), and
truth about the why-am-i-going-through-this? : so that I can grow and so that I can help another who goes through the same, so that I can learn to comfort others with the comfort I have been given from God (2 Cor 1:4)
6. We must stand on the Hope that is promised to us in Christ (1 Cor 15:19), a hope that goes beyond this world. This hope isn’t ordinary and it doesn’t have expectations from this world because this world will surely disappoint.
This hope is one that doesn’t disappoint and is guaranteed in the life to come. It will not fail us. He will not fail us. We look forward to and long for that day when Christ will return for us and we will rejoice in His presence without the pains of this life and the trials of this world.
7.At the end of this painful journey, I will have a story and God will get the glory.
I think of how this happened in the lives of Abraham, Joseph, Moses and David. They all went through much pain and waiting, but in the journey they had to learn to yield to Him, to submit to Him, to wait on Him, even when they didn’t understand, even when they couldn’t see with their natural eyes, even when all hope seemed beyond their reach. They entrusted themselves to the God who created them and loved them through their journey and they watched the beautiful story unfold and in the end, God got the glory due unto His name.
So don’t give up, friend. Suffering and trials have their place and their purpose in our lives. Know and believe that God is good and if He is good and merciful then He must be allowing this in your life for a reason.
Instead of running away from Him, allow this opportunity to teach you to lean into Him more and depend totally on Him and your strength will be renewed (Isaiah 40:31), and your mind filled with perfect peace (Isaiah 26:3) that can come only from being in His presence because He loves and assures you and He alone is your ultimate reward (Genesis 15:1).